tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4061947305449261140.post6714875013945618016..comments2017-12-08T13:26:01.945-08:00Comments on Gay Husbands, Straight Wives: POST VALENTINE'S DAY MESSAGEBonnie Kaye, Counselorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09148246712410065901noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4061947305449261140.post-10619270942327032222011-02-24T04:20:16.692-08:002011-02-24T04:20:16.692-08:00The problem is that Gay Husband Recovery is a proc...The problem is that Gay Husband Recovery is a process that doesn't happen in a few months or even a few years. Your girlfriend really needs to go for professional help to resolve this, otherwise you are bound to have problems in your relationships with her such as trust issues. If she's not willing to go for help, you have to reevaluate your relationship no matter how much you love her because it will always interfere with your relationship.<br />I wish I had better news, but it's the reality of the situation.<br /><br />I tell women that after the break-up of a marriage to gay man to give themselves at least a year to go through the grieving and acceptance process. Jumping into a new relationship before you've done this will only create problems in a new relationship. There's nothing you can do to change it--she has to work to change it, and this means working on her own issues of the marriage.<br />Best regards,<br />BonnieBonnie Kaye, Counselorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09148246712410065901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4061947305449261140.post-40694377420951330802011-02-24T02:21:20.633-08:002011-02-24T02:21:20.633-08:00Bonnie any advice for me? I am involved with a wom...Bonnie any advice for me? I am involved with a woman, actually I already have fallen in love with her, but she has only been out of a marriage to a gay man for around 8 months and she can't seem to move on. She still professes love for this guy who treated her so badly and didn't love her as a man should love his wife in so many ways. How can I help her get past this so she will give me a fair shot? I don't want to change her but I am going nuts as a straight man competing with the ghost of gay husbands past.OMPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15723539214177125116noreply@blogger.com